Friday, July 31, 2015

Sandy Point Sixtieth Celebration

 Our lives have been super full this past month and so I have been trying to take everything one day at a time. This is not a gift of mine but it is something that I'm working on. Most of our engagements have involved packing and meal-planning and a whole lot of orchestrating to make sure everyone is where they need to be when they need to be there with full bellies or arms laden with surprises for whomever it is that we are celebrating. Whew. It has been glorious and exhausting and everything in between. And certainly memorable too. So many of our loved ones' birthdays fall in the months of July and August so it's like party city over here and it's been awesome! 

After hosting two parties in one week (one the night before we were supposed to leave town), I was forced to take a fly-by-the-seat-of-my-pants approach when we headed out of town midday on Monday. My dad rented a house for all of my immediate family and invited us to spend time with them in honor of my mom's 60th birthday that happened earlier in the month. Ordinarily I would have everything planned out all the way from what desserts we will eat each night down to what the color of my underwear would be each day but this time we were literally on the road driving before I even had a second to pull up my dad's email to see where the heck this house was that we were going to. Like I didn't even know what city it was in. Usually this sort of "unknown" leaves me in a panic but this time was different. I felt so spontaneous and the four days at the house were like the biggest gift to me ever. Have you ever experienced anything like this? Where all you can manage is to show up? And then you are blessed immensely by breathtaking beauty and an amazing time of togetherness? I mean, it was supposed to be a celebration for my mom but I felt spoiled rotten. And it was amazing.

So, apparently I am a ocean girl. Or maybe more accurately a sound girl. There was something so calming about being on the water, literally surrounded by it, smelling the sea life, sitting on the deck and reading in the sun, watching the osprey fish overhead, digging in the tide pools, enjoying the sunset and hearing the sound of the waves hitting the rocky shore as boats passed on by. Every morning I would wake up and see the view and want to pinch myself. How can a place be this beautiful!? It also helped that I brought the perfect book, was with really great company, got to go for a nice long run and take a couple kayaking adventures.

I took like a gazillion pictures and there were only about 12 of them that I didn't like so consider yourself warned (and enjoy my little summary of our trip in photos!)
  













Wednesday, July 22, 2015

Emma 46 Months

-testing, testing 1-2-3
-that about sums up the phase she's in right now
-she's a tricky one, this girl
-she's learned this cool new thing called telling a lie
-she'll say she put something away and I'll find it hidden under my desk instead
-there's a lot of "pretending she doesn't hear what we're saying" going on too
-and so I've implement a have-to-fold 5 pieces of clothes for each time she disobeys policy
-well, I did it once
-and it worked
-10 items of clothing later, she was doing just what I asked
-also, she is quite good at folding!
-she also loves washing windows
-which I might add we do for FUN, not discipline
-she really looks up to her big sis and they are having lots of fun playing this summer
-she can't wait for her school to start
-she can start on her bike all by herself now
-she's taking her second session of swimming lessons now
-she didn't technically pass the first but she was already registered for the second...
-I tried to bribe her with a tricycle from Value Village for when she finally does a bob
-poor girl has gotten progressively more fearful
-the trike is still sitting on the shelf in the garage after 16 days of lessons...
-and I'm laying off with the crazy-mama pressure
-her favorite animals are bats and she's currently planning a bat birthday party
-she LOVED the fireworks this year on the fourth
-she's obsessed with the hotel we stayed at in Clarkston back in May
-often brings me my phone and asks me to show her where it is on the map
-is really, really bonded with her brother
-definitely my most physically affectionate
-love her spunk even if she is stubborn!

Wednesday, July 15, 2015

Isla 70 Months

-I'll start off by saying WE HAVE SURVIVED NEARLY A MONTH OF SUMMER!!!!
-this one is busy and wants constant play dates (better if they are consecutive in the same day), constant interaction and sometimes I feel like her round-the-clock activity coordinator 
-her new thing is to ask me at about 4:30 or 5 PM every day if we can do a sewing project
-this only after I have said no to having another friend after
-sooooooo, I introduced her to this thing called Pinterest
-she filled up an entire board with "pins" of various sewing projects she wants to complete
-and I enjoyed nearly 15 minutes of "free" time
-even though keeping her entertained is so totally exhausting, I am cherishing these days together before she starts full day school
-this week we started one of said sewing projects and are attempting to make a sock bunny
-of course this involved first going to multiple places to try and find the right socks because we didn't have any thick ones with cool designs
-she didn't mind because she's super into me buying her things
-I don't know where the ideas come from but, for example, suddenly she will absolutely die without a jump rope and spends days begging and asking for me to take her to get one or "just buy one online"
-my anti-consumeristic bones protest with everything that is in them
-and so we are trying to turn this around into a lesson on working hard, earning money, and saving up for these things that we want
-then she went and tugged at my heartstrings, opting to earn money for sick girls at Children's Hospital
-she'd prefer if these girls also happened to be princesses but regular girls will have to do ;)
-we averaged about one lemonade stand every 5 days or so for a few weeks to "earn" money
-I'm pretty sure she's going to be my entrepreneur
-and I love that she has a heart for others
-she is absolutely ROCKING swimming lesson and I feel like I can finally say she is swimming!
-she got a bigger bike too that is easier to ride and she is starting to increase her distances
-we are so proud of her

Monday, July 13, 2015

Jack 21 Months

-man, I love this kid
-seems to have a strong affinity for the male figures in his life right now
-I go in to get him from his crib in the morning and he greets me by looking behind me and saying "see Daddy"
-grandpa is also asked after multiple times a day
-FINALLY learned to say please
-also says Hadley, Oliver, Neenee (Lani), egg, apple, baby, hand, walk
-rolls his tongue around his mouth and makes crazy sounds for "banana"
-my absolute favorite though is how he says waters (plural!) 
-just beginning to string together 2-3 words "sentences"
-loves wearing hoods
-VERY particular about his shoes
-despises any and every form of sandal and water shoe
-prefers to rock the heat in his rain boots or too-tight tennis 
-can do small slides independently but thankful maintains a healthy degree of fear toward the bigger ones
-would swing for days and days
-loves to get down and walk (and RUN!) and melts me when he sometimes asks for my hand
 -has done phenomenally well walking by himself on a few short hikes
-often walks around on his tippy toes
-loves owls
-stops and points upward whenever an airplane passes over head and then waves bye
-also has gotten on this kick where he'll randomly start yelling "bye" at the top of his lungs and waving to everyone we pass
-interacting with his sisters tons now
-spends a lot of his time following them around and doing whatever they do
-will occupy himself for a quite a while with the toys in the bonus room
-some favorites are duplos and the fishing game
-speaking of fish, he's proven to be a fearless little fish himself
-loves the water and jumps into it independently and repeatedly now and it is simply THE BEST

Sunday, July 12, 2015

My Garden, Two Thousand Fifteen

I have waited SOOOOOO long for this day but I don't think I realized just how much I would love having a yard and garden. I get lost out there. Truly. I go outside "just to get something" and don't come in for an hour or two because my radishes need attention or my lemon tree looks thirsty or there are strawberries to pick. Many call yard work a chore (and eventually I might get there), but right now I find so much joy watching something I do with my very own hands turn into something that is beautiful and that gives back. It's almost instantly gratifying because the fruit of my labor appears so quickly. I can't help but liken to to parenting except with gardening, it all happens in fast forward. I know that in both cases, more time and care invested equals better results. Because the visible "results" my parenting is still decades away, having a garden helps fulfill my longing for results, to see some progress. Sometimes I just need a little encouragement that what I doing really is doing something.
As you can see from the pictures above, my garden went CRAZY. I don't think the internet knows of the saga of how these raised beds came to be. Who knew having a garden would be SUCH AN ORDEAL!? Nothing says "Welcome to the Neighborhood" like a whole slew of neighbors whispering behind your back and polling each other about whether they think your beds are ugly or not instead of talking to you directly. Sigh. There was a lot of drama and a few tears and one very devastated Wanna-Be-Gardener but I pulled on my big girl panties, abided by the HOA's crazy requests and tried to be the "bigger" person and wrote the HOA board a kind letter, introducing them to our family (since I hadn't yet met any of them and I already seemed to be the enemy!) In the letter, I shared a bit of our story and journey to finally be in our long-dreamed-of home. I told them of my hopes and dreams for our yard and for our kids. 
Meanwhile, I rallied a crew of supportive neighbors and LOTS of photos of beautiful raised beds and went to our HOA meeting prepared to state my case: I am a mom and registered dietitian and it is of utmost importance that my kids know that food does not just come from the grocery store. Raised beds can be beautiful and I assured them that mine would be so. I told them that our backyard does not get year round sun and therefore the best plot for little garden was where lawn to the right of our driveway currently stood. I could go on but in the interest of brevity, you probably don't want to get me started....
I'll suffice it to say that I think they barked up the wrong tree. I may have appeared passive and easily-intimidated standing on my driveway when we first moved in, but they unleashed the mama bear in me. Having a garden was something I would not compromise. It was one of my top three priorities in home ownership and we'd carefully reviewed all the HOA bylaws in our neighborhood prior to moving in to ensure there wouldn't be any problems with doing so. (Gently and professionally of course!) I made it clear that the HOA that I do indeed have two legs to stand on and I knew it was not within their right to keep me from having a garden. I put my plans on hold and waited for nearly 2 months for them to do their HOA board thing and give me the official "ok" which was more of a Why-Don't-You-See-If-You-Can-Darken-The-Wood sort of thing than an true go ahead. I took it as good enough and by the end of the week, we'd dug out the grass, rerouted the sprinklers, installed the beds and brought in four pick up trucks full of dirt and compost.
Here is a picture of the grassy area before we install the beds. The lovely plastic black pots on the left served as my temporarily "garden" until they go me the "go ahead." You'll notice there is an existing bed (on the far right of the picture) with shrubs and a tree that help hide my beds from the road. 
The kids helped me with our "potted garden" which served multiple purposes - it allowed me a place to start some plants while also doubling as an eyesore I hoped would help win over the neighbors to just let me put the darn wood beds in.
This little mermaid also happens to be a watering goddess.
I am a rule follower of all rule followers and so if I am asked to "try and make the beds darker" I will most definitely "try and make the beds darker." I didn't want to paint or stain the wood as toxins could then leech into the soil so we tried a bunch of crazy aging tricks including mixtures of vinegar and steel wool, wine, coffee and soy sauce. In the end, the beds darkened a shade or so but I mostly only did it so that we could say we "tried." 
I had SO much fun mapping out the contents of my beds. I worked really hard to design something that would produce edibles but also look pretty to appease the neighbors. I grew a bit obsessive over it because they said at our HOA meeting that we would be granted a year-to-year "right" to continue having raised beds out front. If they look good one year, we can have another go the next year. If we let them go to pot, then we may lose our privilege. They also set a whole bunch of guidelines like no corn or sunflowers, no plants are to exceed 2 feet in height (ha!), no fencing or netting, no colored tomato cages, no more than 10% of your plant-able areas can be raised beds. The whole thing is a load of crap if you ask me but I'm just trying to lie low for a season now that I managed to ruffle so many feathers in such a short time. I will say that my tomatoes are about FOUR feet tall and I am slowing raising the height of my trellis for my pole beans and so far no one has shot me. 
I opted to do mostly starts this year since we weren't permitted to complete the project until the end of May. I went a bit nuts and we are enjoying so many fruits, vegetables and flowers. This year's plantings are as follows: 3 tomato plants, fennel, dill, tons of basil, 2 types of sage, 2 types of oregano 2 varieties of thyme, rosemary, lavender, Padron peppers, sweet gypsy peppers, some sort of spicy pepper that I can't recall offhand, pole beans, bush beans, swiss chard, butter lettuce, red leaf lettuce, golden beets, purple and nappa carrots, radishes, rhubarb, nasturiums, allisum, violas, calendula, zucchini, butternut squash, 2 varieties of cucumber, eggplant, dahlias, a meyer lemon tree, 5 blueberry bushes, 2 types of raspberries, a dwarf honeycrisp apple tree, a columnar apple tree, 2 types of kale, baby romaine, marigolds, red cabbage, strawberries, purple broccoli, crocosmia, a fig tree, lupine, black-eyed susans and TONS of other flowers.
With the exception of the fruit trees/bushes, most everything on that list fit in my four (4' x 7') raised beds. I have also take out my fair share of ornamental bushes (usually under the cover of night so I don't get in "trouble" by the HOA cops) and plugged the other stuff in around the yard. I told you I went a little crazy. You can see in the picture below what the beds looked light immediately after I planted. They have absolutely exploded since. :)
The final touch we added that was not pictured above were the pea gravel paths complete with stepping stones between the beds which allow just enough space for weeding and harvesting. I have promised the neighborhood that my beds will supply year-round beauty so the fall and winter will prove interested as I try my hand at some cooler season crops. Anyone with expertise in this area is welcome to comment! :)