Monday, July 13, 2015

Jack 21 Months

-man, I love this kid
-seems to have a strong affinity for the male figures in his life right now
-I go in to get him from his crib in the morning and he greets me by looking behind me and saying "see Daddy"
-grandpa is also asked after multiple times a day
-FINALLY learned to say please
-also says Hadley, Oliver, Neenee (Lani), egg, apple, baby, hand, walk
-rolls his tongue around his mouth and makes crazy sounds for "banana"
-my absolute favorite though is how he says waters (plural!) 
-just beginning to string together 2-3 words "sentences"
-loves wearing hoods
-VERY particular about his shoes
-despises any and every form of sandal and water shoe
-prefers to rock the heat in his rain boots or too-tight tennis 
-can do small slides independently but thankful maintains a healthy degree of fear toward the bigger ones
-would swing for days and days
-loves to get down and walk (and RUN!) and melts me when he sometimes asks for my hand
 -has done phenomenally well walking by himself on a few short hikes
-often walks around on his tippy toes
-loves owls
-stops and points upward whenever an airplane passes over head and then waves bye
-also has gotten on this kick where he'll randomly start yelling "bye" at the top of his lungs and waving to everyone we pass
-interacting with his sisters tons now
-spends a lot of his time following them around and doing whatever they do
-will occupy himself for a quite a while with the toys in the bonus room
-some favorites are duplos and the fishing game
-speaking of fish, he's proven to be a fearless little fish himself
-loves the water and jumps into it independently and repeatedly now and it is simply THE BEST

Sunday, July 12, 2015

My Garden, Two Thousand Fifteen

I have waited SOOOOOO long for this day but I don't think I realized just how much I would love having a yard and garden. I get lost out there. Truly. I go outside "just to get something" and don't come in for an hour or two because my radishes need attention or my lemon tree looks thirsty or there are strawberries to pick. Many call yard work a chore (and eventually I might get there), but right now I find so much joy watching something I do with my very own hands turn into something that is beautiful and that gives back. It's almost instantly gratifying because the fruit of my labor appears so quickly. I can't help but liken to to parenting except with gardening, it all happens in fast forward. I know that in both cases, more time and care invested equals better results. Because the visible "results" my parenting is still decades away, having a garden helps fulfill my longing for results, to see some progress. Sometimes I just need a little encouragement that what I doing really is doing something.
As you can see from the pictures above, my garden went CRAZY. I don't think the internet knows of the saga of how these raised beds came to be. Who knew having a garden would be SUCH AN ORDEAL!? Nothing says "Welcome to the Neighborhood" like a whole slew of neighbors whispering behind your back and polling each other about whether they think your beds are ugly or not instead of talking to you directly. Sigh. There was a lot of drama and a few tears and one very devastated Wanna-Be-Gardener but I pulled on my big girl panties, abided by the HOA's crazy requests and tried to be the "bigger" person and wrote the HOA board a kind letter, introducing them to our family (since I hadn't yet met any of them and I already seemed to be the enemy!) In the letter, I shared a bit of our story and journey to finally be in our long-dreamed-of home. I told them of my hopes and dreams for our yard and for our kids. 
Meanwhile, I rallied a crew of supportive neighbors and LOTS of photos of beautiful raised beds and went to our HOA meeting prepared to state my case: I am a mom and registered dietitian and it is of utmost importance that my kids know that food does not just come from the grocery store. Raised beds can be beautiful and I assured them that mine would be so. I told them that our backyard does not get year round sun and therefore the best plot for little garden was where lawn to the right of our driveway currently stood. I could go on but in the interest of brevity, you probably don't want to get me started....
I'll suffice it to say that I think they barked up the wrong tree. I may have appeared passive and easily-intimidated standing on my driveway when we first moved in, but they unleashed the mama bear in me. Having a garden was something I would not compromise. It was one of my top three priorities in home ownership and we'd carefully reviewed all the HOA bylaws in our neighborhood prior to moving in to ensure there wouldn't be any problems with doing so. (Gently and professionally of course!) I made it clear that the HOA that I do indeed have two legs to stand on and I knew it was not within their right to keep me from having a garden. I put my plans on hold and waited for nearly 2 months for them to do their HOA board thing and give me the official "ok" which was more of a Why-Don't-You-See-If-You-Can-Darken-The-Wood sort of thing than an true go ahead. I took it as good enough and by the end of the week, we'd dug out the grass, rerouted the sprinklers, installed the beds and brought in four pick up trucks full of dirt and compost.
Here is a picture of the grassy area before we install the beds. The lovely plastic black pots on the left served as my temporarily "garden" until they go me the "go ahead." You'll notice there is an existing bed (on the far right of the picture) with shrubs and a tree that help hide my beds from the road. 
The kids helped me with our "potted garden" which served multiple purposes - it allowed me a place to start some plants while also doubling as an eyesore I hoped would help win over the neighbors to just let me put the darn wood beds in.
This little mermaid also happens to be a watering goddess.
I am a rule follower of all rule followers and so if I am asked to "try and make the beds darker" I will most definitely "try and make the beds darker." I didn't want to paint or stain the wood as toxins could then leech into the soil so we tried a bunch of crazy aging tricks including mixtures of vinegar and steel wool, wine, coffee and soy sauce. In the end, the beds darkened a shade or so but I mostly only did it so that we could say we "tried." 
I had SO much fun mapping out the contents of my beds. I worked really hard to design something that would produce edibles but also look pretty to appease the neighbors. I grew a bit obsessive over it because they said at our HOA meeting that we would be granted a year-to-year "right" to continue having raised beds out front. If they look good one year, we can have another go the next year. If we let them go to pot, then we may lose our privilege. They also set a whole bunch of guidelines like no corn or sunflowers, no plants are to exceed 2 feet in height (ha!), no fencing or netting, no colored tomato cages, no more than 10% of your plant-able areas can be raised beds. The whole thing is a load of crap if you ask me but I'm just trying to lie low for a season now that I managed to ruffle so many feathers in such a short time. I will say that my tomatoes are about FOUR feet tall and I am slowing raising the height of my trellis for my pole beans and so far no one has shot me. 
I opted to do mostly starts this year since we weren't permitted to complete the project until the end of May. I went a bit nuts and we are enjoying so many fruits, vegetables and flowers. This year's plantings are as follows: 3 tomato plants, fennel, dill, tons of basil, 2 types of sage, 2 types of oregano 2 varieties of thyme, rosemary, lavender, Padron peppers, sweet gypsy peppers, some sort of spicy pepper that I can't recall offhand, pole beans, bush beans, swiss chard, butter lettuce, red leaf lettuce, golden beets, purple and nappa carrots, radishes, rhubarb, nasturiums, allisum, violas, calendula, zucchini, butternut squash, 2 varieties of cucumber, eggplant, dahlias, a meyer lemon tree, 5 blueberry bushes, 2 types of raspberries, a dwarf honeycrisp apple tree, a columnar apple tree, 2 types of kale, baby romaine, marigolds, red cabbage, strawberries, purple broccoli, crocosmia, a fig tree, lupine, black-eyed susans and TONS of other flowers.
With the exception of the fruit trees/bushes, most everything on that list fit in my four (4' x 7') raised beds. I have also take out my fair share of ornamental bushes (usually under the cover of night so I don't get in "trouble" by the HOA cops) and plugged the other stuff in around the yard. I told you I went a little crazy. You can see in the picture below what the beds looked light immediately after I planted. They have absolutely exploded since. :)
The final touch we added that was not pictured above were the pea gravel paths complete with stepping stones between the beds which allow just enough space for weeding and harvesting. I have promised the neighborhood that my beds will supply year-round beauty so the fall and winter will prove interested as I try my hand at some cooler season crops. Anyone with expertise in this area is welcome to comment! :)

Thursday, July 9, 2015

Stay-At-Home Mama!

I'm supposed to leave in 20 minutes but tomorrow is a big day and I needed to claim just a few minutes for myself to write and process. I've been writing and re-writing posts on this topic in my head for days but every time I have a "free" moment, the idea of attempting to pen my thoughts into words leaves me feeling exhausted. So I've practiced avoidance. Now I'm sitting on the eve of my last night as a working mama and I've gotta get it out there so I'm opting for the spontaneous, off-the-cuff unedited version. We'll see how it goes...

Sunday marked my NINE year anniversary as a clinical dietitian in the newborn intensive care unit where I am currently employed. When I see that number in writing, I really can't wrap my mind around it. How I really been working at my job for nearly a decade? Time flies when you're having fun. Or when you're having babies. Lots of babies. At the close of my shift tomorrow, I will officially be leaving my part-time position and moving into an on-call role where I work an occasional day here and there when others are on vacation. I have very, very mixed feelings about this and there is most definitely a knot in my stomach as I type. I am elated to have a supportive husband with a good job that is making all this possible. I mean, it's really the reason he went back to school in the first place - to advance to a place where he could support our family financially without having to rely on my income. 

But now that it's here, we've both had our moments of second-guessing. In some senses, the timing feels crazy. We just bought a house that was beyond our budget. Our home still has some major fix-it needs that comes with large dollar signs. Our living room is unfurnished. Our downstairs echos like a cathedral with the lack of decor to absorb the sounds of screaming children.

But yet, I feel this urge, this challenge, to step out in faith and do something brave, something that I've been scared to do for years. I never intended to work after having kids. Then I CERTAINLY didn't intend to work when I had TWO kids. For sure I would quit after having a third. And here I am with my third born rapidly approached his 2nd birthday, still working. A small voice has been squeaking in my ear for quite a while now, telling me it is time. I've shushed it so many times with my what ifs and buts. We've been living a pretty comfortable life and the new "us" is going to involve some penny-pinching and most definitely a whole lot of I-need-to-get-out-of-here frazzled mama nerves.

So pray with us will you? The adventure starts tomorrow!

Wednesday, June 17, 2015

Emma 45 Months

-she's a love bug
-leans in, grabs my arm and whispers "I love you so much" all the time at dinner
-also VERY stubborn and thinks it's her way or the highway
-wears long sleeves only
-and tights
-no matter the temperature
-on a recent 80+ degree day, she was decked out in her winter best when she asked "why am I so wet?" Isla filled her in: "BECAUSE YOU ARE SWEATING!"
-still she refuses summer clothing (except for in the picture above which is literally the first time I got her to wear this dress and only as a result of some parent to kid trickery...)
-I'm learning to choose my battles (and also to box up all her long sleeves)
-likes socks on hands at bedtime so she's "warm and cozy"
-favorite animal: the bat
-favorite store: Barnes and Noble
-favorite colors: pink and yellow and purple
-the other day she told me she wants Jesus to come to her birthday party so "she can see his face"
-I totally melted
-continues to be super interested in how the body works
-loves feeling her heart beat
-comes to me occasionally with a worried expression "I can't feel it beating"
-you can she the relief wash over her when I help her locate it again
-has grown a bit more devious with lots of lying and hiding
-thinks cleaning her room means piling everything on her bed
-but on other days, she pulls it out of somewhere and does a great job of tidying up
-could ride her bike for days
-also loves sneaking out the back door and running around front and ringing the doorbell until the pictures fall off the wall
-spends her quiet times playing with her stuffed animals, looking at books, playing board games with herself and asking me if quiet time is over yet
-told me the other day that lollipops are her favorite fruit
she's a riot, y'all


Isla 69 Months

-almost a FIRST GRADER - wow!
-recently obsessed with her hair
-combs it frequently throughout the day
-last night she grabbed a curl and positioned it just so to frame her face and told me liked it when her hair was like that because she "looks cuter" 
-i kid you not
-she's DOMINATING swim lessons - yay!
-this road has been a long time coming but she finally puts her face in without fear and is actually nearly swimming, hallelujah
-is quite the expert pancake and tortilla flipper now
-loves to teach others
-whether they want to be in her "school" or not
-has been particularly sweet to Emma lately and couldn't wait to bring her to her class and introduce her to all her friends one occasion this month
-completed her first fun run at school
-did nine laps
-proceeded to run more laps around the house upon returning home
-we think she totally 3 miles that day
-spends most of her quiet times listening to books on CD
-reading like crazy 
-for 20 minutes EXACTLY (with a timer)
-her teacher said 20 minutes a day and that's what it shall be - no more, no less!
-got a new blue bike and the change made her an exceptionally more proficient rider
-asks to stay up late and have dessert every day
-wants back to back to back to back to back playdates
-all day
-every day
-asked me the other day if having babies hurts (ha)
-can't wait for her birthday
-a mommy's girl
-creative and talented and for sure my first born!

Tuesday, June 16, 2015

Jack 20 months

-our baby has gone BLOND!
-he learned to say "NO!!" in the sourest of ways
-but then he learn yes (yesh) which he follows with the most adorable happy giggle that you figured out what he wanted
-communicating with him is a lot like playing 20 questions but I'm thrilled he finally can answer
-new words are coming in leaps and bounds: bubble, owl, underdog, up (dee dee), milk, thank you, ball, cheese, yogurt (dodurt), walla walla walla (like Tigger), ta-da!
-is verrrrrrrrrry attached to his binky
-loves being held
-extremely attached to daddy
-and is sooooo excited when he hears the key in the lock when he gets home
-comes running and yells Daddy!
-finally conquered his fear of sand and now makes a bee-line for any body of water he sees
-maybe I liked his fearful, clingy beach self better?
-he's got a strong opinion
-doesn't touch green foods
-until suddenly out of nowhere he decided to stick a green bean in his mouth
-then he proceeded to eat about 25
-but green grapes? 
-no way
-he won't touch them
-they are green so they MUST be a vegetable
-loves sauces and condiments and points to whatever we have out on the table and asks for it on his food
-last week it was yellow mustard
-on his watermelon
-he also really wanted a ring of raw red onion
-and he ate it!
-has a particular dislike of being strapped in
-used to just be the highchair but now he shows opposition to the car seat, the stroller and shopping carts
-my last trip to the grocery store was a personal favorite
-he refused to sit in the kid seat up front
-but he wanted to sit in the main part of the cart
-I let him
-then he screamed like an angry pterodactyl any time I tried to take "his" space by putting something in the cart
-he proceeded to chuck my groceries overboard
-it was one of our finest moments
-even though he's determined, he's as sweet as can be too
-he's learning to kiss
-sometimes you end up cheek to cheek
-other times you just get an open mouth against your face
-just watch out for the times he decides to use a little tongue
-no longer walks but RUNS everywhere
-loves trucks and balls
-other favorite pastimes include sitting in the drivers seat of the van and playing with the dash
-also singing to himself, slides and swings and underdogs
-he's all boy and I LOVE it!

Monday, June 15, 2015

Jack, a photo story

Back in my 4-H days, we learned to snap series of pictures that together told a "photo story." Last night at dinner, it just so happened I had the camera in hand to capture one such photo story, a typical night with the kid, really. You just never know what is coming down the pipe with him and sometimes your best approach is to sit back and watch it all unfold. I'm pretty sure he thought no one was paying any attention. If there's one word that describes this kid it's DETERMINED!
Mission accomplished. And then it was time to PARTY!